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Is calling 911 the only way to stop him? HELP!?
I met a man I truly loved a year and a half ago. I was recovering from the heartbreak of a three year relationship and met him while out with friends
We fell in love the night we met. He lived in New York and I in Arizona. For the next five months, we'd talk on the phone for hours every night and fly to visit one another several times.
After about five months of..."long distance dating", he had to go overseas for a volunteer program for one year. He offered to forgo it for me, but this was a lifelong dream of his and I had my own matters to attend to.
Before he left, he asked me to be his girlfriend. With the knowledge of a 23 year old man in Europe with a bunch of backpackers, I told him I couldn't. If something happened I didn't want to ruin our trust. I told him when he came home, we would be boyfriend/girlfriend, and if anything were to happen, just don't tell me. He repeatedly asked me for commitment, and I denied it...I just didn't feel it was smart or we were ready for a serious relationship while being so far apart.
After about 3 weeks on his trip, he called me crying saying he got drunk and slept in a girls bed. I was shocked, he told me it wouldn't happen yet it did. He apologized and was very emotional and I felt like I couldn't even get mad at him because he was so shook up by his indiscretion. I was heartbroken and told him, but within a few days I moved past it and told him to still book his flight home in a month for valentines day.
After holding in my anger over the incident for about a month, I finally addressed my hurt and anger over the situation. I told him that the open relationship I pushed for was a test, and that my father would never desire anyone other than the woman he loved. His response was very argumentative.
He had booked a flight home for valentines day to see me, but I realized I wasn't ready to see him. So I told him that I needed time a week before he flew home. I know I shouldn't have waited to tell him I wasn't ready, but I did.
With his ticket already booked, he still flew home to see me in February and I didn't see him. He flooded my Facebook inbox and voicemail with pleas as to how it wasn't his fault and how I didn't love him. I was hurt and now even more hurt
After 3 weeks of crying on his part he flew back to Europe. When this happened, knowing I missed my chance to see him, I messaged him, stupidly, that I still loved him and made a mistake. .
After a month of long distance talking again, I told him I loved him and asked him to be my boyfriend, for the first time. He offered to come back home immediately but I told him to wait until I moved into my apartment, which would be in 3 months.
From march until June, we spoke every night. Upon telling me he booked his flight home to see me, I told him I'd be there at the airport with balloons and apple pie.
Two weeks before he flew home, I met another man at a coffee shop. He swept me off my feet. I spoke to friends about this and they agreed, I couldn't continue the relationship.
The day my boyfriend landed in America, I sent him a facebook message saying that I met someone new and my feelings faded, and It would be best if we didn't see each other.
His response was shocked at first, followed by anger and rage. While he was calling me names, I mistakenly implied that his anger was proof he may one day beat me or my children. He was beat as a kid and that destroyed him.
I agreed to meet him for lunch on the condition that he'd fly home the same night back to new York. We were both tired and I ended up renting a hotel room. I told him it was a bad idea to have sex but we had it anyways. Afterwards, I drove him to the airport and said goodbye.
Since, he has harassed me and my friends on Facebook. He called me a sl't, c'nt, b'tch...he told me to die and burn in hell. I have had to change my phone number and delete my email account. He even speaks to my aunt about me. I have apologized numerous times, but ceased contact in December. He begs that I talk to him but I don't care to, he has destroyed me with his words.
I understand that he cut his trip short for me. I understand that it was wrong for me to test him with an open relationship and leave him when he was honest with me about what happened. I know he's not a bad person he volunteers and is great with kids and never once yelled at me or touched me when we were together.
Since all this happened 7 months ago, he has sent me
a 1000 angry emails, sent angry messages to my friends on Facebook who he has never met, and began contacting my aunt about his struggles. He has never threatened violence but has said he will show up to Phoenix and hold "hunger strikes" outside my parents house.
He messages me that i made him into a monster. I know I have but the harassment needs to stop.
Also he is demanding his iPod that he gave me back (I lost it) as well as one of his flights to Phoenix back. He is threatening to tell my friends dark secrets of my past if I fail to return his items
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How come no one has invented a quiet espresso machine for coffee shops?
Those things are like 100 decibels.
I reject the answer of:
"acoustic accents" to highlight the coffee going experience.
I'm talking about the Espresso machine noise, as in the sound that stops all nearby conversation dead until it completes, and pains the ears.
Not talking about the normal deli plate and spoon jiggling, etc.
A friend of mine just indicated I might be thinking of the steamer, and not the espresso machine.
If that's the case, then I pose the same question re: the steamer.
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